The value of any disruptive change is whatever we choose it to be. Does it, in fact, matter? How could it be helpful? Does it cause concern? Does it include joy? In other words, are we happy about it? Sad? Angry? Afraid? These are natural and normal responses. The key is recognizing they are also choices. However, the choice is not where our response begins. Our attitude toward change shows up long before the choice is made and, to some degree, dictates the outcome. In his ... Read More » about Have you considered the gifts of change?
Navigating Change & Uncertainty
Resiliency: Creating perspective with gratitude
Nothing challenges our beliefs like pain. Whether physical, mental, or emotional, when pain strikes, all bets are off when it comes to what we might have expected in our responses. That is why it’s crucial for us to have a tool to create context and perspective for those moments. That tool is gratitude. You cannot be stressed and genuinely grateful at the same time. You cannot be angry and grateful at the same time. They are counter-intuitive emotions. It can be hard to find ... Read More » about Resiliency: Creating perspective with gratitude
Prioritizing what’s next: Asking the other questions
Recently, I have found my focus shifting more strategically to what is next as I consider plans and priorities. Perhaps you find yourself here as well. A productive practice to consider is integrating what I call the other question into our thought processes. I’m always intrigued by inverse statements and questions. There is always another one there. What we are considering is a fundamental practice for experiencing the full range of possibility thinking. We must be able to consider ... Read More » about Prioritizing what’s next: Asking the other questions
Stop, Pause, or Continue? Get the questions right for the answer.
Has this ever happened to you? You had to take a break from something – fully intending to go back to it – but somehow never did. You did not mean to abandon the project, but in the end, that is what happened. If so, you are not alone. Recently, I had to make some decisions about things in my life and work, and there were some that I was not ready to just stop. But other priorities had to take precedence, so I had to make a choice. Even as I was putting some things on hold, in my heart, I ... Read More » about Stop, Pause, or Continue? Get the questions right for the answer.
The Myth of Indecision
Do you struggle with making decisions? I didn’t consider myself particularly challenged in this area until some significant and disruptive changes occurred. I began to second-guess myself at every turn. I doubted my ability to make good choices, even small ones. After all, some I had made certainly didn’t seem to be working out as planned. Indecision started settling over me and, with that, a marked loss of confidence. In very short order I recognized that there is a definite myth when ... Read More » about The Myth of Indecision
For those times when you just want to quit!
Have you ever noticed that accomplished people seem to have an uncanny ability to adapt and adjust in just the right places at just the right time? They seem to fluidly keep on keeping on without losing a step. Since I quite often have to actively convince myself to keep going on some of my goals, the apparent ease of others intrigued me. The reality is that no matter how easy it may look for others, it is, in fact, a universal challenge. The key is in how we face those times when we simply ... Read More » about For those times when you just want to quit!